Sunday, February 21, 2010


"Before the beloved's own characteristics can affect them, these misguided souls smother the true person in an imaginary charm drawn from their own inexhaustible source. Then, as they become closer, they see their darling not as they are but as they have made them and, while believing they take delight in their loved one, they are simply delighting in their own conceptions. One fine day, however, weary of doing all the work, they discover that the object of their adoration is not returning the ball; the infatuation drops away and the blow to their self esteem makes them unjust towards the person they once idolized."

Stendhal on Love, translated from the French language

Saturday, February 20, 2010


I know its a load of bull, but it makes good reading:

(1) wrt current squeeze


(2) wrt previous squeeze


Tuesday, February 16, 2010


I asked her why did she have her ex-crush's photo on her handphone's wallpaper, to which she replied, "I will be getting married (to another guy) in two weeks' time, and after that I will never be able to have his photo on my wallpaper ever again".

That was in 2004, and they have been happily married and living overseas since. They have a kid now, but the memory of the wallpaper incident never fails to remind me that in life, as with most things, it's all about the choices we make and how we choose to make things work.

Monday, February 8, 2010


Happy Birthday Meiling. You should be 25 now. What would you have been doing? Would you have married? Would we still be arguing over the smallest things? Would you still be the same? Would WE still be the same?

I miss you terribly. One day when my chores are done here I will see you again. One day.